So you want a SL girlfriend? Part 5: A/S/L?

Age/Sex/Location? One of the laziest questions ever put forward on the internet. I guess if you are in a massive chatroom and you only want to talk to those of the opposite gender (supposedly) and in your prefered age range (allegedly), then that question is the fastest way to get down to whatever business you had in mind. Downside of this quick fix is that you are missing a slew of opportunities for conversation that would have led you to those answers anyway.

Now as shocking as this may sound, there are many people who actually "lie" on the internet. (Insert gasping sound.wav here) I know, I know, what dastardly excuse for a human would dare do something so despicable as to actually fib to a perfectly anonymous stranger three time zones away! It happens, and it's not exclusive to just one gender. Everyone's got something to hide, something they don't want to reveal, as my best girl Kris likes to say, "we are all broken toys". Some are just a little closer to recall for lead contamination than others, no offense to my loyal Chinese readers..

Not wanting to reveal all your personal info on the internet is a normal and inherently wise decision. This does not mean you need to fabricate the greatest lie since Joe Millionare. The truth will always come out, and if you are serious about wanting to find that someone special, the discovery of your deception will end that possibility quickly and harshly. If you are looking for someone to share your time with, someone to connect with, it has to be the real you they are conversing with. Withholding information until you are farther along in your relationship is perfectly understandable, flat out lying is just immature and stupid. Kids break the living room lamp and swear they didn't do it, grow up and fess up already.

Being a mature responsible individual is important at all phases of a relationship; before, during, and the eventual after. Being goofy and fun loving is fine, acting like a spoiled, still-in-puberty, ignorant shithead is not. No woman wants a boyfriend that still needs his diapers changed, unless she has that infantilism fetish but that's a different chapter, and showing your childlike behavior while trying to impress her is not going anywhere. Get this through your head guys, not every girl is going to like you! You are not going to hit it off everytime you lay down your best pick up line and will be rejected like imported Shanghai sushi, again no offense to my loyal Chinese readers. When this happens, cursing her out, calling her names, sending ignorant IM's and notecards is NOT acceptable. Move on already, even if it is your first time talking to a woman, you don't have to act like it.

This goes for the end of the relationship too. If it's over, it's over. Working through a problem, a misunderstanding, and trying to make up is one thing. Clinging to what you used to have and constantly harrassing her because you refuse to let go is just pathetic. Word to the wise, girls talk... alot. You do NOT want to be the guy known as the pussyhurt psycho stalker, that's a red flag, again my apologies loyal Chinese readers, that will follow you around for a long time. As seemingly endless as SL appears, it's amazing how the circles of people all intersect, your behavior will be known from SIM to SIM. Let it go, be a man, don't be that guy.